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As you probably saw from the awesome video above, the Courageous Family Coaching Program is a network of like-minded business families who are “in the trenches” doing things NO ONE else is doing... implementing our Trademark Family Operating System... and changing the direction of their families!
And I Want YOU To Be Part Of This Exclusive Group!
You are tired of constantly fighting or struggling with the same things and feel like your family is pulling itself in opposite directions.
Your work, competing interests, opinions, and activities seem to prevent you from connecting or spending time together.
You feel like you are stuck in a never ending cycle of frustration because nothing you've tried has worked or gotten you where you want to be.
It's not your fault.
We aren't programmed with the tools we need. Our society, culture, and past trauma often leads us in the wrong direction.
Zef will give you the tools to lead your Family's Turnaround...
So your family doesn't continue in pain.
The Family Transformation Program is a comprehensive coaching program designed for the whole family. This 12-week program helps you pinpoint underlying conflicts, identifying sources of frustration, anxiety, and overwhelm, and equips you with the necessary tools and confidence to bring about healing and family-wide change. All while still enjoying the journey. How, you ask?
Ready to turn family stress and chaos into a meaningful vision with clear plans for success? Our 12 Week Turnaround is here! We're walking you through our Family Operating System Framework step-by-step. Over the course of this program, we'll help your family resolve conflict and division while discovering values, defining a shared vision, identifying purpose - so everyone can unite behind what matters most to build life plans that make an impact. Change is just one step away...let's take that step together.
- Imagine a relationship with your spouse/partner that's filled with understanding, curiosity, connection, sex, and loyalty.
- Imagine a home where your kids are confident in who they are and have the tools to process strong emotions, overcome fears, make plans, and achieve their goals.
- Imagine your family spending time together, smiling, laughing, and working well together.
- Imagine a family who knows who they are, where they're going, and how they're going to get there.
- Imagine you, confidently leading that family and being a chain breaker for addictions, trauma, abuse, and becoming the guide to healthy, resilient living.
That's the power of a strong family culture, vision, strategy and the right tools.
We were all there at one point, too... and that’s why I created the Family Transformation Coaching Program: a group of believers that do nothing but champion you and your family across the finish line!!
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I have loved coaching!
It's changed my life dramatically over the past few years. I would 100% recommend Neary Coaching to anybody that's looking to be coached. The Nearys are some of the nicest people that you're, that you'll meet. They're so knowledgeable...
- Ashley Hankerson
Before working with Neary Coaching, I found myself angry at colleagues and frustrated by a lack of progress at work. After just two sessions, I was able to resolve a lot of the work conflict and make progress on my goals that I wouldn't have considered possible.
- Rob Jager
I found it clarifying on where I stood and helped me to determine a clear action plan to get where I wanted to go. Work with Neary coaching a few times. It is the 2nd and 3rd time that I saw momentum build and my understanding grow.
- Marshall Saunders
Get ready to discover a new level of curiosity this week! Zef is here to guide you on a journey of self-discovery that will uncover your core values, as well as those of your spouse/partner and children. People who have tried this process have called it life-changing. By gaining self-awareness and understanding of what everyone truly values, you'll be able to start addressing and reducing conflict at its root rather than implementing band aid solutions to symptoms.
The foundation for creating a shared vision for your family is to understand your shared values. In week 2, you'll be guided step-by-step to create a shared family vision. This gives your family the opportunity to understand each other's aspirations and dreams, and how you can work together to make them a reality. You will find that a shared family vision will make decisions about how to spend your time and resources so much easier! It will reduce overwhelm and aimlessness and give your family a sense of purpose.
This is where you discover where YOUR family turnaround will take you.
Now that you know what your values and purpose are, it’s time to identify a 10-Year goal that supports you in achieving your family’s purpose. To help with this, Zef will help you explore and identify any limiting beliefs you might have that are impacting what you believe is possible for your life and those of your family.
(WARNING! - Realizing what you believe deep down will be life changing so please stop reading if you prefer to stay as you are)
Understanding your basic assumptions and beliefs is the key to understanding your patterns of behavior as it relates to:
Your life and that of your family will change forever as you understand and begin to evolve your foundational beliefs that are guiding how you think, feel, and act in response to day-to-day challenges and stressors.
It's completely turned my life around for the better, and it will for you and your family as well.
The majority of families will begin to experience their family turnaround during week four. After week four you will have begun to master the V.A.L.U.E. model which will give you the tools to recognize, understand, and validate your thoughts and emotions as well as your spouse/partner and children's.
You'll be better prepared to create your family's Three-Year Picture and Key Metrics that will help you track your family's health and success. You will also have to the tools to begin coaching yourself through emotional and behavioral challenges.
Zef will begin role-playing with members on how you can use the V.A.L.U.E. model to orchestrate dialogue, understanding, connection, and healing between family members.
Role-playing will help you achieve your family turnaround 10X faster!
At week five, you now how have the understanding, the tools, and the self-awareness to create a 1 year plan for your family.
This is where your dream starts to become a reality as you create a concrete blueprint to long-lasting change for your family.
You'll continue to practice and coach on implementing transformative change for your family. Whatever the challenge, Zef will help you utilize the tools you've gained to overcome it so your family turnaround is a success.
Just like in your business, your family operations will move in 90 day periods. Your family will learn how to break down your goals and planning into quarterly rocks, or priorities.
Understanding what your family rocks are will significantly reduce the anxiety and overwhelm that comes from day-to-day life. It will help orient everyone to what is most important for your family and give you milestones that you can celebrate together.
There is nothing more bonding than celebrating a success that everyone has worked so hard for. Your family will know how each member will contribute to your family's purpose and goals. This process will be invaluable for teaching your children how to set goals, make plans, and create success in their lives.
The most successful organizations persist because they know how to evolve. The same is true for families. As parents and children, adaptation and evolution is a constant requirement as family circumstances change, as children grow, and as you mature in your ability to parent.
This week is all about identifying both needed change and evolving circumstances that will require adaptation. Each season bring different difficulties and needs different routines and processes if kids are in or out of school, sports, music, clubs, or free time. This is time to identify potential issues and obstacles and examine how you are thinking and feeling about them. (Ever dreaded a certain time of year?)
Instead of relying on old, destructive habits, you are ready to captain your family's turnaround!
Week 8 is all about learning how to make better decisions. Decisions are ground zero for most conflict. We fight over past decisions, we fight over decisions we're currently trying to make, and we worry about decisions in the future.
This week you'll learn how to approach decisions methodically as an individual and as a family. You'll be able to look at your decisions through the lens of your values, vision, and plans. You'll discuss with your partner different thresholds when you want a decision to be made by the two of you, the whole family, or if it can be handled individually.
Having a formal and informal decision making process will make decisions less daunting, you'll consistently make decision in line with your values (which means less regret and more confidence), and you'll know what topics are most important to your partner and how to make them together with less fighting.
Weeks 9-12 is ensuring your turnaround is complete and you are ready to lead your family forward.
Your fellow courageous families and Zef want to make sure you are your family's success is all but inevitable.
We'll review your new processes that will help automate your success and do coaching any particular challenges or questions.
You are ready to boldly go where your family has never gone before!!!
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So often we tell ourselves, we'll figure it out tomorrow. Don't ask your family to wait for tomorrow. You can help your family get out of pain now and before things get worse.
Be the Hero they need TODAY!
I grew up in a family of 9 kids. Both my parents came from dysfunctional homes. They loved me and each other the very best they could while dealing with their own childhood pain, programming, and mental health challenges. Yet, sometimes our parents' best can still be traumatizing.
From the time I was a freshman in highschool up through when I married Melissa in college, my parents separated roughly 15 times and divorced and remarried each other twice.
Despite the trauma, the pain, and confusion I experienced growing up, my parents still managed to give me an incredible gift--an appreciation for the importance of family and a desire for a family of my own. I really, really wanted to get this family thing right.
As a husband and father, I experienced a lot of fear. I worried about making the wrong choice and experienced anxiety. I was afraid of any emotion other than happy, so I suppressed negative emotions hard and masked often. I didn't know how to communicate my needs and desires to my wife, so I buried them and planted resentment in the place of healthy communication.
I struggled with knowing how to succeed at work while balancing being present at home. I was torn between thoughts of how much further ahead I could be at work, but worried about how behind I was at home.
I struggled to be present with my kids and with my wife when she was struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety, and auto-immune disorders. Because I was constantly distracting myself so I didn't have to feel, I lacked vision for my family, leaving my wife to bear that heavy burden of family leadership on her own. I struggled with feelings of shame and guilt about my ability to lead my family.
(If you're experiencing this, you are not alone!)
I knew there had to be a better way to handling life's difficulties other than hiding from them, a better way to communicate with my spouse, and a better way to creating a stable, resilient, and successful family.
I just needed to find that path.
I'm happy to report, I've found that path.
I watched military officers I admired. I studied leadership, organizational behavior, negotiations, persuasion, my faith, parent psychology, business strategy, and principles of cognitive behavioral therapy. I got a life coach and certified as a life coach.
I became obsessed with talking with business owners who had healthy, resilient families. I watched which families fell apart, and which ones persisted and enjoyed being together. No family was perfect, but some definitely lasted longer and had higher quality relationships than others.
Then I started applying the patterns, principles, and tools I discovered while working in military units, at work, at church, and at home. The crazy thing? They were the same principles every time. The issue? Because I was learning them in different environments, I didn't know how to apply them when the environment changed.
As I practiced, I discovered how to adapt military leadership principles for business and business principles for home. I took all of these different tools from education, military, and business leadership and synthesized them into tools that I could easily use in my own family.
The results surprised me. I found it easy to make quick, confident decisions for my family because my wife and I understood each other, were connected, and on the same page. My marriage and intimacy took off. My emotional, physical, and spiritual health improved drastically, and because of this, I, and my wife, had the capacity to have 9 kids (3 biological, 4 adopted, 2 foster) between the ages of 10 and 6 months...and we're thriving!
Now I'm on a mission to share these principles with as many business owners and their families as possible. Why? Because I understand the frustration, pain, fear, and loneliness that comes when our most important relationships are suffering. I've seen how that suffering then translates into the workplace. The pain at home compounds in the workplace, which then rebounds back into the home in deathly spiral. And I know these tools will help bring connection, understanding, healing, and change to your family!
Our world and society needs courageous business leaders who can model how to create value in the market and at home; we need business leaders who can create strong, ethical business AND family cultures; and we need business leaders who can teach their children through example how to innovate solutions to vexing problems.
I'm inviting you to join me in the movement to creating Courageous Families that have the tools, resources, and knowledge to succeed and last.
Are you ready to take the bold step in transforming your family and creating positive, lasting change? At Neary Coaching, we believe that great families can be built on the same principles as strong businesses. It takes clear values, purposeful leadership and meaningful relationships with each other and our surroundings to stand together united in reaching a common goal.
Our 12 Week Turnaround Coaching Program will equip you with everything needed for success: from learning innovative methods of staying ahead of life's curve balls while keeping core values front-and-center to resolving conflict at its root; all wrapped up into one inspiring package - setting out towards achieving true family success! Sign up today — it’s time to start living courageously!